Wait, hold on! Put down your pitchforks, douse your torches! Let me explain.
I am a guy. In a perfect world that statement would make no difference, but unfortunately, the world we live in is not perfect. It does, however, lead me to a good example: why does gender matter when someone…
Okay, I actually bothered to read the whole of this, so could you do the same for me please?
You’re argument is flawed on so many levels because you appear to have a major misunderstanding of what feminism is, and you have unwittingly revealed yourself as slightly sexist. Sorry.
I am genuinely sorry for listing this by number too, but I felt like it would be the most effective way to get my message across.
1. ‘He is not allowed to say anything negative about women’ - well let’s think about this, a negative statement about an entire group of oppressed people based on one defining shared characteristic, that being their sex… well yes that would constitute sexism.
2. ‘most of my friends are girls because I prefer their “gentle” nature above the drug-abusing, smoking, vandalizing bastards in my football team’ - Okay, well here you’ve been sexists against both sexes, well done! Who said all girls were ‘gentle’? that’s a load of bull and it’s the reason woman are constantly seen as incapable of looking after themselves, always cast as damsels in distress, and why people think they need a man. Furthermore, you imply that girls are better than men because men are drug abusing vandalizing bastards, it’s quite an insult.
3. ‘men are just fine with girls saying they are more intelligent, and at best it will be something to joke about. But men doing the opposite… it’s hardly ever acceptable.’ - LOOK AROUND YOU, little girls are being shot for fighting for womens right to education, women are being paid less and being awarded lower grades on the basis of their sex. Not long ago, women had to write under male names just so that their books would stand a chance at being published, and many still do because otherwise, they face criticism that men don’t face. Of course women will say that they are smarter than men, it’s a defence to the constant barrage against us from a male dominated society, if you want to say that women are less intelligent, you reinforce a VERY dangerous gender stereotype.
4. ‘by making that debatable distinction between masculinity and femininity it seems as if both men and women are expected to act more masculine. But why? That would imply that masculinity is better,’ - okay, now it seems as though you have either made this part up or have never read a book about feminism or had any real discussion on it AT ALL. NEVER has feminism said that women should be more masculine, this is a fundamental misunderstanding of the entire concept by men. Women will never be men, fair enough, most of us don’t want to be. Feminism quite literally appreciates the strenght of femininity. Feminism does not call for women to act more masculine, it does not mean identical personalities, it means IDENTICAL TREATMENT. Similarily it doesnt ask men to be more masculine, funnily enough it supports femininity in men. If you had done more research you would know the troubling issues surrounding the whole ‘you’re not a real man if…’ notion. Do you know the suicide rate for men because they don’t feel ‘man enough’? Feminism supports femininity and masculinity in both sexes on the basis that no one should be one thing or another based on their sex.
‘Remember that some of those female qualities are amazing, and that we, as men, need them….. I mean compassion, caring, calmness.’
Well you really did leave the best til last. You completely gender stereotype here, and worst of all you refer to men needing women to be a certain way. THIS is the problem, culture is based on women being a certain way because that is how it’s convenient for men. I’m sorry to say that especially in this last part, you display some extremely sexist views. Men and women can both be compassion, caring, and calm, which you wrongly labelled as ‘female qualities.’ Similarly both can have ‘masculine qualities’ and neither is better than the other. Most importantly, you need to realise that woman are not here simply to be pleasing to you. We are not here to cook your meals when you’re sad, or to give you massages after work, to be calm and compassionate because it makes you feel better… we as women are people, and we have all the same traits as men do, whether you like it or not.